One of the best books that I read in 2018 was The Answer, by John Assaraf and Murray Smith. The book, in reality, is two books within one. John Assaraf writes the first half of the book with a focus on the laws of attraction, gestation, and action. The second half of the book is written by Murray Smith with a focus on what it takes to build a business.
The two points of focus could not be more opposite. However, they flow together in such a concise manner that you realize, you cannot have one without the other. The focus of this piece will center on the first half of the book written by Assaraf.
Three Laws to Guide You
You’ve heard the old expression “I’ll believe it when I see it.” But that’s not really how it is. The truth is more like this: You’ll see it when you believe it. In a genuine, concrete sense, your beliefs don’t merely reflect your reality; they create your reality. This applies to your success in life, your career, or your business.
You have to get good at creating the idea of what you want with high precision. Practice building the thoughts that will serve you best. A vaguely formed idea will never sprout or take root.
There are three Laws to understand, which form the basis of helping you to find Your Answer;
Think of these three Laws as: Be purposeful, Be patient, and Be active.
Inside Your Mind
The Laws of Attraction, Gestation, and Action all work within your conscious and unconscious mind.
The way to strengthen the inner workings of your mind is to put complete faith and trust in it, and at the same time resist the temptation to attach meaning or interpret what you are sensing. I like to refer to this as the inability to run from your true calling whatever that may be.
By the time you’re seventeen years old, you’ve heard “No, you can’t,” an average of 150,000 times. You’ve heard “Yes, you can,” about 5,000 times. That’s thirty no’s for every yes. That makes for a powerful belief of “I can’t.”
One of the biggest obstacles to a person achieving their goal is their belief that the goal is achievable. It has little to do with external conditions or factors. If you don’t believe it will happen, it is almost guaranteed that it won’t.
You cannot achieve a goal that you do not believe you can achieve. Those beliefs live in that part of the brain that is running the show, even though we typically are not aware of it.
How Do You Build Your Mental Muscle?
Setting goals is a conscious exercise; achieving goals is a nonconscious exercise. To achieve our goals, to create and build our dream life, career, or business, we need to become an expert at using both parts of our brain.
Utilizing both the conscious and unconscious we often need to “feel the fear, and do it anyway,” which is more than a mantra. It is a way to learn how to recognize feelings that are not in our comfort zone and use them to move forward instead of reacting protectively to them. We need to interpret them as a sign that a breakthrough is in the offing rather than seeing it as a threat.
This capacity is no different from a muscle: The more you work it, the stronger it gets. When you start having doubts or an edgy feeling of nervousness about your goals, pay attention—and take control. Ask yourself, “Is this a genuine danger? Is this something that can hurt me, or is it part of my natural growth process as I achieve my goals?”
It takes about thirty days of consistently applying neural reconditioning techniques for your nonconscious brain to absorb a new orientation. The more time you give to this experience and way of thinking, the more quickly your new vision and supporting beliefs will become ingrained at the nonconscious level, and the faster your goals will take shape in the physical world of events and circumstances.
A critical but often overlooked process in this muscle building exercise is not how long you do it, but that you do it, and do it consistently.
“Five Musts” of Major Success
In reading The Answer, I came across the following “Five Musts” of major success that Assaraf identified which I believe any of us can use on your path. I took the liberty of identifying a person that I believe exemplifies each of these musts.
Goals are mileposts along the road of life; purpose is the direction the road takes. Always keep in front of you the following;
“If you’re interested, you’ll do what’s convenient; if you’re committed, you’ll do whatever it takes.”